Resources for
disabled people.
You won’t have to educate your therapist about disability here. This section exists so you can arrive at therapy already knowing what good, disability-informed support looks like — and having language ready for what you need.
Independence isn’t
doing it all yourself.
“I do everything myself” is one version of independence. Another is just as valid: I retain autonomy, choice and control over my life and how support is provided.
A lot of disability-related distress in therapy comes from measuring yourself against the first definition when the second is the one that actually matters.
Messages you never
chose to believe.
- Needing help means weakness
- Productivity determines worth
- The disabled body is a problem to overcome
- You should stay positive, and inspire other people
None of these were chosen. They can still be examined, grieved, and in time, loosened.
Language and grounding,
before you begin.
What disability-informed therapy means
A plain-language explanation, so you can recognise it — or its absence.
In progressQuestions to ask before you start
What to ask about access, experience with disability, and flexibility.
In progressSelf-advocacy script library
Language for requesting accommodations and saying “that doesn’t work for me.”
Read ↗ 04Understanding the models
A client-facing version of the models of disability.
Read ↗ 05Grieving the life you expected
On loss after disability or illness, without being told it’s just “acceptance.”
Read ↗ 06Late-diagnosed neurodivergence
Masking, years of misreading yourself, and what changes after diagnosis.
Read ↗“Disability is not just a diagnosis — it’s an experience that shapes how we see, feel, and connect.”